Every intimate relationship causes difficulty.  It's supposed to.

So if you are experiencing relationship difficulties (intimacy, communication, sexual dysfunctions, avoidance, anxiety, fear, etc.),  or if your partner is telling you THEY are unsatisfied with your relationship, take some comfort in knowing that you are not experiencing anything out of the ordinary.  In fact, you are probably experiencing something good, though it probably feels horrible. 

Society may tell us that committed relationships are supposed to make us feel more secure, more relaxed, and that if we are lucky enough to get married, life should be just fine.  If we are unsatisfied, or if our partner is unsatisfied, there must be something wrong.  But these feelings of discomfort about our relationship is really a good thing in that it is a sign that we have an opportunity to grow, to deepen that relationship even as we develop ourselves.

Couples therapy (or counseling, either word is fine!) can help you to explore your own potential in a unique way simply because you are doing it in relationship with someone who matters the most to you.  This can be a scary and challenging proces, to be sure, but ultimately worth the work.

Many couples seek couples counseling because they believe it is the best way for their partner to work on what they see as deficiencies or defects. Working as a couple helps the two of you to acknowledge how you both operate as a system together, and that you each have the power to maintain or change that system as you so choose.  

Couples who seek counseling together often are experiencing difficulties in communication, varying degrees of desire and intimacy, sexual problems, or are actively fighting.  At Connexus, I specialize in helping these couples work together on whatever the issues may be, while maintaining a sense that each individual in the couplehood has equal power that they are choosing to do unique things with.  Helping couples therefore is a process of helping both members identify their own sources of empowerment and comfort, while also addressing the dynamics between the individuals in the moment.  

 Working with a therapist not only provides an objective and trained third party, but can also provide a safe space to talk through issues that the couple does not have the skill at providing for themselves.  In this manner, the couple learns how they can take more responsibility for their patterns, while increasing their skills in being in relationship.

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