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As a developmental therapist, I am always looking to answer one question when working with my clients: Where did their challenge/struggle/difficulty originate? The answer is rarely simple, and never is it one dimensional. In fact, when seeking to answer such a question, it is vital that we as therapists take into account the multi-faceted experiences that form us mind, body, and spirit. Working with men can be a particular challenge, as many of the interventions and therapeutic approaches tend to ignore the unique developmental issues and societal assumptions about what it means to be a man. Write Comment (0 comments) |
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Relationships can be stressed and stretched thin amidst the hustle and bustle of the holidays. Competing demands from family, friends, and work take their toll, depleting our resources as we try to keep all the balls in the air. We find ourselves snapping at loved ones and finding them dismissive of us. During this time, it is easy to move hectically from one thing to the next, just trying to make it through to New Years Day when we can put it all behind us and get back to "normal" life. We may not feel we have time to deal with the hurt feelings that happen along the way.Write Comment (2 comments) |
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No doubt you've heard cracks made about the stress of the holidays. From the shopping insanity to the debates of 'whose house do we spend how much time at this year?', from the turkey and football to the ham and tinsel, you've heard the jokes made around the water cooler and the sitcoms. So why do we put up with it all and why do we keep doing it. Write Comment (3 comments) |
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Many of us find ourselves repeating the same ‘mistakes’ or find ourselves in relationships and situations where we can’t help but react the same way we always have. We have probably told ourselves or heard others tell us something like: “Just get over it!” or “This time it’s going to be different!” or “What’s the big deal? Just put your head down and do it!” But the reality for many is that “Just Doing It” isn’t enough to make permanent changes in how we think, feel, or react to situations and stressors.Write Comment (0 comments) |
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Everyone wants that perfect relationship, don't they? It seems that with all the images of intimacy and romance that are thrown around it should be easy. Just follow the formula (if you can) and you will have what you want. From movies to TV shows, advertising to the conversations at the water cooler, it seems there is a collective understanding that once you find The One, your trials and tribulations will be over.Write Comment (3 comments) |
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You may be one of the folks out there who think that a fulfilling relationship is based on mutual support and selfless giving. Setting boundaries is not necessary because you want the other person to know that you care and will do anything for them. But while this works and feels good through the first stages of a new and exciting relationship, a fulfilling relationship has to be constructed after the honeymoon ends and all those responsibilities you let go, the friends you’ve ignored, or the exhaustion of being out of your normal rhythms kicks in.Write Comment (2 comments) |
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For many people, the ability to make changes comes naturally, depending on the nature of the change. Trying a new food, learning a new task, making a new friend, starting a new job...these may just be part of daily life. For the most part though, we are merely changing what we are doing, where we are going, and it's not too difficult. Write Comment (2 comments) |
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I am constantly asked by clients HOW they can change unwanted patterns in their lives. The question is varied but usually revolves around the same theme: I keep doing the same thing even though I don't want to be doing it. I guess you could call that the dictionary definition of being stuck, right?Write Comment (3 comments) |
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