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Connexus Mental Health Blog
Here you will find articles written by David exploring various topics related to mental health, relationships, recovery, and a host of other life issues.  Check back often to see what's newly added.  Also, you can check out David on

Self-limiting thoughts giving your power away?
Jul 07, 2012 at 01:36 PM

In my line of work as a therapist, I see most often that people struggle with their self-limiting thoughts and beliefs.  Over the years I’ve started to put a list together of the beliefs I hear that, for each of the people saying them, indicate the ways they have been giving their power away to change their lives for the better.  See how many of the following you can identify in your own thought patterns, so that you can shed a little light on how you are holding yourself back.

May 28, 2012 at 04:55 PM

After a long break, the Connexus Connection has come back on line, and I am reminded with today being Memorial Day that taking pause to reflect can be such a healthy and necessary practice to incorporate into our lives.  Whatever your views may be on issues of politics, military endeavors, or the like, today is a useful day for us all to pause and reflect and in short, to remember.  Here are some pointers I would like to share with you for remembering.

Holiday stress: Making this year different
Dec 14, 2010 at 12:33 AM

Relationships can be stressed and stretched thin amidst the hustle and bustle of the holidays.  Competing demands from family, friends, and work  take their toll, depleting our resources as we try to keep all the balls in the air.  We find ourselves snapping at loved ones and finding them dismissive of us.  During this time, it is easy to move hectically from one thing to the next, just trying to make it through to New Years Day when we can put it all behind us and get back to "normal" life.  We may not feel we have time to deal with the hurt feelings that happen along the way.

The holidays can be a tough mixed bag of emotions
Nov 23, 2010 at 11:50 PM

No doubt you've heard cracks made about the stress of the holidays. From the shopping insanity to the debates of 'whose house do we spend how much time at this year?', from the turkey and football to the ham and tinsel, you've heard the jokes made around the water cooler and the sitcoms.  So why do we put up with it all and why do we keep doing it.

Perfect relationships involve pain and pleasure
Nov 04, 2010 at 01:08 AM
Everyone wants that perfect relationship, don't they?  It seems that with all the images of intimacy and romance that are thrown around it should be easy.  Just follow the formula (if you can) and you will have what you want.   From movies to TV shows, advertising to the conversations at the water cooler, it seems there is a collective understanding that once you find The One, your trials and tribulations will be over.
Satisfying relationships start with boundaries
Oct 28, 2010 at 12:18 AM
You may be one of the folks out there who think that a fulfilling relationship is based on mutual support and selfless giving. Setting boundaries is not necessary because you want the other person to know that you care and will do anything for them.  But while this works and feels good through the first stages of a new and exciting relationship, a fulfilling relationship has to be constructed after the honeymoon ends and all those responsibilities you let go, the friends you’ve ignored, or the exhaustion of being out of your normal rhythms kicks in.
The difficulty of making changes
Jun 10, 2010 at 11:42 AM
For many people, the ability to make changes comes naturally, depending on the nature of the change.  Trying a new food, learning a new task, making a new friend, starting a new job...these may just be part of daily life.  For the most part though, we are merely changing what we are doing, where we are going, and it's not too difficult. 
Getting unstuck
Mar 06, 2010 at 01:52 PM
I am constantly asked by clients HOW they can change unwanted patterns in their lives. The question is varied but usually revolves around the same theme:  I keep doing the same thing even though I don't want to be doing it.  I guess you could call that the dictionary definition of being stuck, right?

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